There have been some great assumptions about who I am and whether I’m single or attached. This misjudgment can be perplexing and hilarious at times. Do you know the core of a person or quick to pass superficial judgment?
People are entitled to their opinions, but it’s not justification for judging another person depending on their marital status. By the time I turned 40, I had assumed marriage was inevitable and just around the corner. It never happened, but this was no surprise since I’ve spent most of my adult life as a single woman.
Am I tired of being asked when you are going to find that special someone and settle down? Yes, but I’m delighted to say that I haven’t settled to date.
I truly believe that once you are comfortable with your inner self and know your worth; you’ll never sell yourself short. Many women are willing to lower their standards, put on a façade and sell themselves out for a relationship and fake love. Each to their own decision, but it’s your life, and you should live it as you see fit.
I’m at a mature stage in my life where I don’t need a partner to live a fulfilled life. I am a very rational person, and everything I do is purposeful. A healthy relationship takes a lot of teamwork, compromise, communication, commitment, dedication, patience, and selflessness. Two people must be willing to put their differences aside and become a union, but I’m not that committed to that sacrifice at this current time. Perhaps I will be more open to the idea in the future, but I’m perfectly content to be independent and on my own for the time being.
Chivalry seems dead in North America. Many women are willing to settle for boys as opposed to gentlemen. Today’s dating scene is worse than having teeth pulled, and it’s beyond dreadful.
Would you eat a meal you didn’t find delicious or drive a car you didn’t like? Would you invest in a house you didn’t really want to own? Then why would you sell yourself short and be in an unhealthy relationship because of society’s pressure? You should never feel intimidated to settle for mediocre.
I have had my fair share of toxic relationships and settled for men who were less-deserving of my attention. I came to a breaking point on December 28th, 2020, after sitting in a hospital parking lot for three hours, waiting for someone I was seeing on and off for over three years. During a drunken fight, he broke his left hand. I looked at myself in the mirror and thought, what are you doing with your life? You deserve so much better. Being a fixer, I thought I could fix him and that he would change for me, but after watching his excessive drug use, smoking, drinking, and partying lifestyle, I walked away.
Being single doesn’t mean no one wants you. It’s all about timing. When the time is right, and everything is aligned, you will meet your life partner. In the meantime, keep your chin up, do not talk down or self-sabotage yourself.
Your life is exactly where you want it to be, spend quality time with yourself and be self-reflective. The love of your life will walk into your life when you least expect it. You don’t have to try to fit into a relationship because it’s often overrated anyways. The best life you can have is a happy life!